Acknowledging the Wins and the Disappointments


As a personal coach I recognize the value of acknowledging my clients’ “wins,” while acknowledging their disappointments. The problem is that many of us tend to dwell on disappointments and this keeps us stuck.

 

A client goes home to visit her parents for the Holidays and binges seven of the ten days – just as she did as a child. She wants to spend time in our session talking about the binge, the way she “screwed up”, “didn’t follow through” and “failed.” While I’m all for acknowledging disappointments and believe this to be important, I am more interested and curious to find out what happened on the three days when she didn’t binge. How were they different? What can she learn from this comparison? Is she willing to congratulate herself for being binge-free for three days amid difficult circumstances?

 

 

 

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